There’s a difference in looking back at the past and remembering, and living with remembrance.
Looking back tends to keep us past focused and backward facing. Neither is conducive to forward motion.
Living with remembrance is present focused and forward facing. It openly accepts what is and acknowledges what was and it incorporates both into a workable solution that launches one forward into what will be.
Living with remembrance honors the memory, provides an outlet for an expression of grief, and keeps one in the present and looking toward the future.
This weekend is a difficult one for my family. Yesterday, Hubby’s mom celebrated her first wedding anniversary without her husband – a marriage that lasted almost 60 years. She lost him 4 1/2 months ago. Tomorrow, Hubby will endure his first Father’s Day without his dad, and I will remember three Father’s Days ago when I watched my dad take his last breath.
Sorrow has a way of sucking us back to where and when it all happened and if we’re not careful the past can wrap its memories and emotions around us and snare us.
As we immerse ourselves in this weekend, may we do so present tense with our faces set toward the future, living with remembrance, loving those left and those who left us, and rejoicing in what and who we have with us still. May we remember the blessings we had in those who blessed us with intent, with their presence, love, discipline, strength, character…for so much of our lives.
We are who we are because of them. And, we live with remembrance to honor them. It’s what they would want us to do. After all, it’s what they modeled for us.