The Power to Stop

Daughter pulled her car into our driveway and said, “Mom, I think something’s wrong with the brakes on my car.”

“What gives you that idea?” I asked.

“Well, the brake pedal goes all the way to the floor and the car keeps on moving.  I can’t stop.” Daughter said.

Yep.  Sounds like brake problems to me.

Checked the brake fluid reservoir – maybe a little low but certainly not so much that it would cause the car to lose the ability to stop.

Added more.

Pressed on the brake pedal and to the floor it went as though there was no pressure at all.  First thought was: air’s in the line.  But…how was that possible?

Backed the car up. Stopped. Pumped the brake – nothing. Pulled the handbrake on – wouldn’t hold. Pulled forward.  Pumped the brake. Again, nothing. Checked the fluid level.

The reservoir was empty.

Put paper under the engine, refilled the reservoir, pumped the brake several times, backed the car up, checked the paper.  Nothing.

Odd.

Not the master cylinder.

Then I thought of the rear brakes.  The emergency/hand brake did not hold the car – it did nothing.

I got out and went to the rear of the car and said “ah ha!”

Daughter joined me and I pointed to the trail of brake fluid on the ground and the fluid running down the tire.

“Oh, that’s not good.” was her reply.

“Nope, but it explains why your brakes stopped working,” I offered.

A quick check online revealed the problem: rear wheel cylinder, driver’s side.

Not all that expensive to fix if you know how, have the strength, the time, the resources and the tools. Five very important things when it comes to working on cars.

A YouTube video showed how “easy” it is to fix.  I’ll admit, it did look like a simple fix.  But, I’ve been into the workings of rear brakes and know that which looks easy, and seems simple, is often harder than it appears.

In the hands of an experienced mechanic, it’s a simple task that would take less than 30 minutes to complete.

The hands of an experienced mechanic are 3 miles away.  Not a great distance to drive a limping car, but too far to drive in the city without the power to stop.  Between here and there, I count 8 required stops and 15+ potential stops due to green lights turning red.  This does not take into account cars pulling out, people dashing out, animals in the road, etc.

“What would it cost to have the car towed?” Daughter asked.

“More than the part will cost.” was my reply. “And, then you will have labor on top of towing and the cost of the brake cylinder. Would be cheaper to fix it ourselves.”

“But, it would be worth it to have it fixed and know the car is safe, right?” Daughter quizzed.

“Yes,” was my answer.

“What good is a car that can’t stop?” Daughter asked more to herself than to me.

All I could do was shake my head and agree.

Without the power to stop, a car is hell on wheels…disaster, tragedy, mayhem, murder….

Is it not the same with us? Without the power to stop, are we not as hell bent as a brake-less car?  Disaster, tragedy, mayhem follows in our wake – and yes, even murder, as we kill off all that’s dear to us because we can’t stop our

  • behavior,
  • attitude,
  • habit,
  • addiction,
  • memories,
  • abuse,
  • anger,
  • desires,
  • spending,
  • hangups,
  • laziness, and
  • appetite.

As a result our

  • relationships break,
  • finances hit bottom,
  • friends leave,
  • health fails,
  • work suffers,
  • family disintegrates,
  • direction is gone,
  • focus is blurred, and
  • hope is lost.

It’s not all that expensive to fix if you know how, have the strength, the time, the resources and the tools.  Five very important things when it comes to working on ourselves.

YouTube videos show how “easy” it is to fix, offering self-help and advice.  There are books, too, that make it look like a simple fix.  But, I’ve ventured into the workings of the human psyche (I have one and so do you) just enough to know that which looks easy, and seems simple, is often harder than it appears.

In the hands of an experienced mechanic, it is a simple task that would take less than 30 minutes to complete.

But, unlike a car, we tend to get in the mechanic’s way and think we know better how to fix what’s wrong with us. It’s not a simple task of diagnosing what’s gone wrong, removing it, and replacing it with something that works the way it should.

Or, is it?

Celebrate Recovery provides the power to stop when your brakes go out. It gives you the know how, helps you find strength, instructs you in finding time, offers resources and gives you the tools.

Don’t run through the stop signs because you don’t have the power to stop.

Get help and join the growing number who celebrate recovery daily.

The power to stop can be yours.

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Unexpected Insight

Daughter, in comparing her current work situation with that of her previous, said the following.

“I don’t have to worry about things my coworkers say during break or lunch.  They don’t talk dirty like the women did at my other store.”

I suggested a possible reason.

“Many of the women where you now work are Muslim – at your old store they were Christian, or at least most likely attended church and would consider themselves Christian.”

She paused a moment and then shook her head. She agreed that was probably the difference.  And, a sad difference it was.

As she shook her head, I found myself shaken. Things came to mind that I had said or done, habits I’ve developed….

Deeply convicted by the Muslim women’s devotion to their belief and my own words about fellow Christians, I’ve begun an introspective journey that I hope will lead to a change in who I am and how I am, a greater understanding of myself and deeper appreciation of others.

I am Christian. But, does my behavior reflect my belief?  What of my speech? My lifestyle?

What of your belief?  Do you walk the walk or simply talk the talk?